Two years ago this story was published in The Talon. It was written by me. I received many comments on it, good and bad. I have decided to republish it. It has been edited since then by adding and deleting some information. I dedicate this story to the health teachers of my Alma Mater high school.
Our world is becoming over populated with teens that just do not care about the consequences of having sex. Some teens are getting pregnant at ages as early as 13, when they are barely entering puberty. Teens should stop playing with sex like a toy, and start being more mature and to use it for what it was created — for married couples, not for teens that just do it to feel good or have “fun.”
Some male teens are having sex every day and not thinking about the consequences. Some do not think that nine months after intercourse their girlfriends, or some “hot” girl at the party, could end up with a baby. Males sometimes do not want to take the responsibility, so they tell the female just to abort it so they will not have to take responsibility and/or pay child support. They don’t realize the hurt and distress a woman faces after having an abortion.
We are constantly being told to “just say no,” but is it really that easy for a girl when the man every day pressures her to do something she does not want to do? The male teen will throw out, “If you really loved me you would sleep with me” or, “Please, just one night.”
We also have the females. Some female teens brag about having sex with that “hot” guy, needless to say that “hot” guy has had sex with 10 or more females already and is currently looking for the next girl. Teens are just being immature about something they can never get back — their virginity.
Some teens may think, “What the heck, I have already lost my virginity. I have nothing to lose.” It is because of those teens we now have a growing rate of babies growing up with a teen mother and a fatherless figure in their lives.
Some students are now being taught if you want to have sex, use condoms. At my high school, a health teacher always made the point in telling students she couldn’t talk about condoms or pills, but if they had any questions, she could answer them. This is because Texas has an abstinence ONLY program for health teachers to follow.
If sex was the same as crossing a road, I’m sure that teacher would have taught students to be safe while j-walking. “Make sure you avoid the cars. Oh and there is a 10 percent chance you could get hit and die from an STD or have a baby, but don’t worry.” They might say that instead of telling them wait at the cross walk, do it the right abstinence way.
I hear all the time from teens that use condoms and are sexually active, that “teens are going have sex anyway, and since they are, let’s teach them protection.”
Great idea, I’ll ask Planned Parenthood to hand out sterile needles to drug users since “they are going to do it anyways.”
A health teacher might show this statistic: a sexually active teen that does not use contraceptives has a 90% chance of becoming pregnant within a year.
In my four years of high school every sexually active teen I have talked have said they started off with a condom, but eventually began taking the chance and stopped using it.
Today we have parents buying the condoms for the kids. We have fathers encouraging their sons to have sex, according to the book, “Every Young Man’s Battle.”
A teenager in the book is quoted as saying “Every time I went out on a date, my dad would remind me that he had stashed some condoms in the glove box, just in case I needed them.”
Teens need to be more mature. They want freedom, and when they get it, they abuse it. They should think twice about what they are going to do before they do it. Health teachers do you job according to the state law, and do not try to go through loopholes expressing your opinion. If you don’t, it’s just as much as your fault for every kid that leaves your class and has a baby or contracts an STD.
Just remember, the “fun” is temporary; however, the consequences last a lifetime.
Basically, if you hang out with a few other friends so you’re not all alone, you won’t be forced into a difficult situation. Condoms break – that’s just the facts. Hearts break too, but the difference is that you can’t throw away your heart. It may end up broken forever.
I believe that one thing that would help teens think more responsibly about having sex or refraining from it is NOT to take away the shame in being pregnant. Teens get pregnant now a days and there is no shame in it and they are treated like its commonplace and normal. There was a time when pregnant teens felt guilt and remorse for their lack of responsibility and is some cases had to leave town to live with a distant relative. Today, teens get pregnant and they are excited about when the baby shower is going to happen! It promotes more teens acting more irresponsible in my opinion.